Wake Up or Break Up: The 8 Crucial Steps to Strengthening Your Relationship |
Let's be honest: No one has a perfect relationship and nearly all couples could use a few improvements every so often. Research shows that well over 50% of couples break up. Even if they were completely in love and even if they are somehow meant for each other, they can easily have their closeness and intimacy destroyed by the pressures of living such busy, stressful lives. Yet there are specific, easy-to-follow steps that have been shown to improve relationships 80% of the time. These steps are crucial if you want to repair the closeness, the love, and the teamwork that can make the relationship wonderful again. How to be successful in a long-term love relationship is not something you can learn in high school, college, or even graduate school. It's something you need to explore as a conscious adult in an accessible and realistic book like WAKE UP OR BREAK UP: The 8 Crucial Steps to Strengthening Your Relationship (Rodale Books, 2005). .A Self-Administered Quiz that Can Save or Vastly Improve Your Relationship As you think about your own relationship (or the relationship of a close friend or relative you want to help), which of these vulnerable areas might benefit from some specific improvements: 1) Does one partner give in too often, while the other partner seems to be taking the flexible partner for granted sometimes? 2) Are there sexual tensions because one partner wants to make love more often than the other partner, or because there's less closeness, intimacy or mutual playfulness lately? 3) Do one or both of the partners feel so stressed from the pressures of the day that he or she finds it difficult to be fully present (or to be a patient listener to your partner or your children) on nights when you've got nothing left to give? 4) Do you and your partner sometimes clash about your differing styles for keeping your home clean, or because one of you does too much and the other person does too little of the household tasks? 5) Do arguments or differing opinions sometimes drive a wedge between the two of you, especially when there are hurtful words or painful silences between you? 6) Is there someone in your life (an in-law, sibling, ex-lover, step-child, or other person) who seems to want to split the two of you apart, or who isn't very supportive of your relationship? 7) During an illness, a family caregiving crisis, or a stressful time at work, do the two partners seem unable to be there for each other and does one partner seem to be tuning out emotionally or physically? 8) Are there fears and concerns that one or both of you are giving up too much of your own individuality in order to be part of a couple? 9) Are there other stresses and issues that are causing tension in the relationship lately? If you answered "Yes" to one or more of the above questions, there is a new book that should help enormously. Wake Up or Break Up: The 8 Crucial Steps to Strengthening Your Relationship, written by bestselling author and award-winning psychologist Leonard Felder, Ph.D., addresses each of the concerns listed above with practical, easy-to-utilize methods that will bring partners together for better teamwork, closeness, intimacy, shared decision-making, and exquisite passion. This highly-acclaimed book is the result of 20 years of Dr. Felder learning from his many counseling clients and actual couples what works and what doesn't work for improving a relationship and rebuilding the trust, caring and teamwork before it's too late. What Experts Say About This Breakthrough Approach According to Michael Gurian, bestselling author of "What Could He Be Thinking": "Wake Up or Break Up calls the soul of the reader toward the highest standards of human loving. It is wise, practical, and easy to read. Len Felder understands what couples are facing in their everyday lives. He speaks directly to women and men like you and me. I highly recommend this book and its eight steps." Dr. Linda De Villers, author of "Love Skills," says: "Len Felder has done it again! Wake Up or Break Up offers its readers a wonderfully friendly and inclusive approach to transcending the inevitable rough spots in a relationship. The book goes beyond simplistic 'man-speak, woman-speak' differences to offer solutions that will benefit couples of all ages and backgrounds." About the Author: Leonard Felder, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist in West Los Angeles whose 10 books have sold over 1 million copies and were translated into 14 languages. He is a widely-requested speaker nationwide and has appeared on over 200 radio and television programs, including Oprah Winfrey, NBC The Today Show, CBS The Early Show, CNN, National Public Radio, BBC London, A.M. Canada, and ABC Talkradio. Originally from Detroit, he graduated with high honors from Kenyon College in Ohio, received a Master's Degree from the University of Pittsburgh, and worked as the Director of Research for Doubleday and Company in New York before receiving his Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology in 1981. He is active in several volunteer organizations and received the Distinguished Merit Citation of the National Conference of Christians and Jews for developing programs to combat racism, sexism, homophobia, and religious prejudice. Leonard and his wife Linda Schorin have been together since 1980 and they live in Mar Vista, California with their 12 year old son Steven. How to Benefit from these 8 Crucial Steps that Can Improve Your Relationship: You can order a copy of Wake Up or Break Up for yourself, or for your partner, or for a relative or friend that you want to help. Just ask for a copy at your favorite bookstore, or log onto BarnesandNoble.com or Amazon.com for a significantly discounted-price copy of Wake Up or Break Up by Leonard Felder, Ph.D. What the Book Advises and Explains with Inspiring Real-Life Examples: Each of the eight chapters of Wake Up or Break Up focuses on one specific action step that can dramatically improve your relationship (whether you are married, unmarried, heterosexual, gay, lesbian, childless, living with young children, or caring for adult children). These eight crucial steps that have proven to be the keys to an improved relationship are: 1. Finding the Balance Between Being "Too Flexible" and "Not Flexible Enough" 2. Discovering What Heightens or Blocks Your Intimacy 3. Making the Daily Transition from "Work Mode" to "Fully Present" 4. Making Domestic Teamwork More Fun and Creative 5. Resolving Frustrations BEFORE They Get Ugly 6. Dealing with Challenging People Who Are Part of the Package 7. Coming Through for Each Other During Life's Toughest Moments 8. Keeping Your Relationship Strong with Each Passing Year Don't Wait Until the Relationship is Irreparable or There's Too Much Resentment and Distance Built Up! Get a copy of Wake Up or Break Up today and make sure the love, closeness, teamwork, and passion gets restored. This positive and realistic book is filled with inspiring examples of actual couples who dramatically improved their relationships and who discovered a profoundly beautiful and mutually satisfying way to bring out the best in each other. |
